I noticed an empty juice bottle that was holding a bunch of wild flowers. Wasting time, I started reading the backside of the bottle.
The headline on the back read: Shake Well, Settling is Natural.
Settling is natural, and unfortunately more prominant than Cinderella or Snow White would like to see. Aren’t we trained early on that we are a princess and that we need only wait for our Prince Charming to come and sweep us off our feet?
However, it seems that as we age this fairy tale alters itself a bit. At our younger naïve age, the Prince has the kingdom at his feet. In reality- we’re lucky if our Prince has a job. But in search of our modern prince are we becoming picky or desperate?
Dopamine is a pleasure chemical that is released in the brain. It fluds the brain during sex. Cocaine use and thrilling adrenaline rush activities also produce dopamine. So why do we find so many women sulking about being alone? Why can’t they simply go for a bungee jump and get the same rush?
Well in reality, we know that this is not the same. Because there is something different between the rush of lust and the deeper feeling of love…isn’t there?
A place in the brain called the codid nucleus blends with dopamine and produces sensations. However, this blending only occurs when the person is committing to acheiveing a certain goal, such as love. Therefore, there is a physical difference between lust and love that occurs in the body.
Although humans have gone with the flow of evolution, in this area it appears that we are fighting it. The broad shouldered aggressive hunter who was once attractive, has evolved to the financial provider. And while we are programmed to seek out the most attractive mate we can find, landing that person is not as easy.
So then, for the sake of the species we can’t just give up. We then find someone that we could potentially mate with and are somewhat attractive to and that is close to how attractive we are. Rarely does a 10 mate with a 2.
Today we settle for the sake of not being alone, after all- it’s natural, right?
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Right.
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